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  How is self-esteem built? It is something that is being formed from the day we are born and goes on. It is all those feelings that we develop about ourselves, either positive or negative are reinforced in us by others. Some aspects which are affecting our self-esteem from childhood are:- 1. Upbringing :- Parents with high self-esteem inculcate confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive beliefs and values, and vice versa. Parents who participate in crooked deals, unfortunately, set bad examples for their future generations. It is less painful to learn in youth than to be ignorant as adults. Little eyes are always upon you and they're watching and learning from us all day long. 2. Environment :- The greatest gift parents can give their children is their firm roots. A positive environment makes a child grow in every aspect. Real gifts are when you give a part of yourself. Your kindness, courteous and polite behaviour. 3. Self-talk :- Self-talk is what

  Self-esteem   Self-esteem is the way we feel about ourselves. It's a self-image portrayed by us about ourselves. Our opinion about ourselves critically influences every aspect of our lives. When we feel good the world seems nice, and our productivity and relationships go up. Self-esteem comes from recognising and accepting our self-worth. Accepting our self-worth makes us feel secure internally. Self-esteem is of two types:-  1. High self-esteem:-                                    High self-esteem leads to a happy, gratifying, meaningful and purposeful life. unless we perceive ourselves as worthy, we can't have higher self-esteem.          Check on the points you get with each point:- •Signs you have High self-esteem:- • Person with the willingness to accept responsibilities. • A person who is confident without being arrogant. • A person with an optimistic attitude. • A person who leads to better relationships and fulfilling lives. • A person who is self-motivated and ambiti

Motivation It is a compilation of two words (motive+action) motive for action. It is a driving force that encourages us to take action. It is an igniting spark to encourage us towards our goals. Can you motivate someone?  Absolutely not, No we can't motivate anyone. We can only inspire, encourage and support people to motivate themselves but we can't motivate them. Why? Because motivation is a inspired action. We can only inspire but we can't act for anyone. They have to act for themselves. And taking actions can only take us to new heights. Inspiration is thinking and when our thinking changes, it reflects in our actions and behaviour. If pain is greator than action it is a demotivator to actions. If gain is greator than pain it is a motivator.  Motivation is of two types:- • External External motivation comes from outside. External motivation can be helpful in short term. But for long run it can't help. It comes with a duration limit. It only lasts till your physical

  What do you think what makes you fight your battles?  Some people might suggest things like hard work, focus, persistence, resilience etc. But if we study on more deeper level, research shows that these are all byproducts of something else, something is there that is more powerful and special which we can develop.               Have you ever experienced the days in your lives when you even struggled to show up? What helps you there? What helps a person with depression? What helps a person suffering from havoc serious disease? What helps a person in Coma?  It's Belief , yes you heard it right.  Believing in yourself can make you do miracles in your life. It is something which is learned over the life. According to neuroscience, our brain is malleable. We can transform it into any form of choice. Every time we see everything falling apart in our lives, we face a series of rejections and lots of setbacks. That's the exact time when we have to believe in ourselves the most. It

I and you all have been judged by someone.Or might be, we are judging someone both the scenario can be true. What judging someone means? Making an rigid image or opinion about a particular person by just knowing some certain incidences.Jugdement comes by a fact might be you seem or consider yourself better than that certain person in that particular factor. Be curious instead of being judgemental.          We literally have no idea what that particular person have been through. We have no idea what they have faced or facing right now. Before judging, make sure to took a step back before forming an image and Try to ask yourself "What happened to them?" What's the reason? Why they reacted the certain way? According to child psychology, whatever happened to a person in their childhood is the reason of who they become today. For whatever you are judging a person might be due to their childhood trauma or abuse that have made them whatever they are today.A child always carries

  Character Character is a person's core values, beliefs and personality which is simply reflected by their thoughts, behaviour and actions. Character is the foundation upon which all else is built, either societal image, your relationship/friendships or the success. Character is the only key which will make you earn trust, respect among people's hearts around you . Which in turn leads to good relationships and peace of mind. Some traits of a person with character:-                                                                                            •They are confident without arrogance.      •They considers others thoughts, situations and are understanding.      •They accepts responsibilities without making excuses.      •They accepts and learns from their past mistakes.      •They never builds themselves by destroying others.      •They know that courtesy and good manners takes small sacrifices.      •Character has nothing to do with money, looks and fame.      •They ar