How is self-esteem built?
It is something that is being formed from the day we are born and goes on. It is all those feelings that we develop about ourselves, either positive or negative are reinforced in us by others.
Some aspects which are affecting our self-esteem from childhood are:-
1. Upbringing:- Parents with high self-esteem inculcate confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive beliefs and values, and vice versa. Parents who participate in crooked deals, unfortunately, set bad examples for their future generations. It is less painful to learn in youth than to be ignorant as adults. Little eyes are always upon you and they're watching and learning from us all day long.
2. Environment:- The greatest gift parents can give their children is their firm roots. A positive environment makes a child grow in every aspect. Real gifts are when you give a part of yourself. Your kindness, courteous and polite behaviour.
3. Self-talk:- Self-talk is what we say to ourselves, consciously or unconsciously. Our every statement reinforces our subconscious mind adversely. Our brain starts believing these statements and our behaviour changes accordingly. Positive self-talk makes us feel uplifted while negative self-talk diminishes our capabilities and drains us out.
4. Role models:- A person knowingly or unknowingly follows or tries to mimic their role models. So it is a must that we surround ourselves with good people. And choosing role models wisely is also important.
5. Education:- Being educated is not about getting higher degrees in your life. It is more about being a man of values and morals. Qualities like integrity, which is a must in any professional, whether an accountant, judge, politician, attorney, accountant or judge. Integrity is a lot more than honesty. It is the foundation of honesty.
6. Labelling and Put-downs:- Constant Put-downs and negative criticism destroys one's self-confidence and leads to low self-esteem. Even if someone is sometimes labelled playfully, stupid, idiot, duffer etc. has a great impact on them. Make sure to use your words wisely.
1. Give yourself positive auto-suggestions:- Give yourself positive statements of the kind of person you want to be or the things you want to have or do. Built a habit of having a good conversation with oneself. And try to influence your belief system and subconscious mind.
2. Turn your weakness into your strengths:- There is no such thing as weaknesses until and unless we are willing to accept them and not put effort into changing them. We have to put efforts to change our lives.
3. Read biographies and autobiographies:- Reading biographies and autobiographies of successful people who have turned their weaknesses into strengths gives us the courage to fight. We can learn lessons from their lives. We learn how to fight despite of various problems in our lives.
4. Associate with people of high moral character:- A person's character is judged not only by the company they keep but also by the company they avoid. It is common to see people doing wrong things to get accepted things, "It is cool", not realising that they will be left cold.
5. Develop a mindset that brings happiness:- Happiness is internal. We are responsible for our happiness. Look for the positive in every person and every situation. Remember all times are not the same. Ups and downs are part of life.
It is something that is being formed from the day we are born and goes on. It is all those feelings that we develop about ourselves, either positive or negative are reinforced in us by others.
Some aspects which are affecting our self-esteem from childhood are:-
1. Upbringing:- Parents with high self-esteem inculcate confidence and high self-esteem in their children by giving them positive beliefs and values, and vice versa. Parents who participate in crooked deals, unfortunately, set bad examples for their future generations. It is less painful to learn in youth than to be ignorant as adults. Little eyes are always upon you and they're watching and learning from us all day long.
2. Environment:- The greatest gift parents can give their children is their firm roots. A positive environment makes a child grow in every aspect. Real gifts are when you give a part of yourself. Your kindness, courteous and polite behaviour.
3. Self-talk:- Self-talk is what we say to ourselves, consciously or unconsciously. Our every statement reinforces our subconscious mind adversely. Our brain starts believing these statements and our behaviour changes accordingly. Positive self-talk makes us feel uplifted while negative self-talk diminishes our capabilities and drains us out.
4. Role models:- A person knowingly or unknowingly follows or tries to mimic their role models. So it is a must that we surround ourselves with good people. And choosing role models wisely is also important.
5. Education:- Being educated is not about getting higher degrees in your life. It is more about being a man of values and morals. Qualities like integrity, which is a must in any professional, whether an accountant, judge, politician, attorney, accountant or judge. Integrity is a lot more than honesty. It is the foundation of honesty.
6. Labelling and Put-downs:- Constant Put-downs and negative criticism destroys one's self-confidence and leads to low self-esteem. Even if someone is sometimes labelled playfully, stupid, idiot, duffer etc. has a great impact on them. Make sure to use your words wisely.
We can build a positive self-esteem:-
We can alter our lives greatly by changing a few habits.
1. Give yourself positive auto-suggestions:- Give yourself positive statements of the kind of person you want to be or the things you want to have or do. Built a habit of having a good conversation with oneself. And try to influence your belief system and subconscious mind.
2. Turn your weakness into your strengths:- There is no such thing as weaknesses until and unless we are willing to accept them and not put effort into changing them. We have to put efforts to change our lives.
3. Read biographies and autobiographies:- Reading biographies and autobiographies of successful people who have turned their weaknesses into strengths gives us the courage to fight. We can learn lessons from their lives. We learn how to fight despite of various problems in our lives.
4. Associate with people of high moral character:- A person's character is judged not only by the company they keep but also by the company they avoid. It is common to see people doing wrong things to get accepted things, "It is cool", not realising that they will be left cold.
5. Develop a mindset that brings happiness:- Happiness is internal. We are responsible for our happiness. Look for the positive in every person and every situation. Remember all times are not the same. Ups and downs are part of life.
~Kalpana Saini
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